Born of a period of introspection following the death of my son, I want to share what I have learned and to try to be a help to others.
I am the red jersey guy on the homepage picture, holding onto the rock, trying to find my way. Finding my way has been difficult these past three years. My wife, Michelle, and I lost our first-born son, Jack. Two months later I had surgery for cancer. Now my beloved Michelle is coming up on her forth surgery for breast cancer.
The world I thought I knew–with its patina of safety in the minutiae of eat well, exercise, etc, and the bigger things, like talking to G-d about protecting the children–has been knocked off its axis. Many days, I am the computer that is low on juice, putting all available energy into essential activities. Trying to put one foot in front of the other, I am mainly focusing on Michelle and my two remaining wonderful sons, William and Ben.
Living in “low power mode,” has also been useful, as I am seeing what matters most in a new light. Despite and maybe because of this time of loss and pain, my mind has greater clarity.
I think there are five things that are keeping me alive in this troubled time. These topics happen to align with the findings of the massive UK New Economics study on life fulfillment and overcoming depression. I will share observations about that study in an upcoming blog.
So, my best explanation for why I am writing is that I have a bit more energy, and sharing ideas and experiences are a natural extension of the Big Five. From a child psychologist’s perspective, I also want to think with you about how we can help children to overcome anxiety, learning concerns, and other challenges.
To live, share ideas, and not give up hope is what Jack would want me to do.